Toxic Relationships: How to Heal and When to Let Go

Boy meets girl.  They go out.  They fall in love.  They live together and live happily ever after.  This is the kind of stuff we read in books, watch in movies or on TV.  But is this reality?  Instead, this is what we commonly find happening:  Boy meets girl.  They go out.  They fall in love.  They live together.  They discover who each person really is.  They develop a toxic relationship.  Abuse happens.  The relationship ends.

Unhealthy attitudes and habits creep in slowly in relationships.  You only get to realize that something is terribly wrong after some years and you don’t even remember when it started.  You realize the person you fell in love with has turned into someone you don’t know anymore; a stranger who makes you think and believe that you are not good enough and you can never do anything right, a creature who constantly makes you feel anxious, fearful and threatened.

A toxic relationship is characterized by one partner, persistently degrading and damaging the other’s emotional and/or physical state.   The key words in this destructive pattern are always, constantly, daily and continually.  The harmful acts are done to the other in such frequency that results to the loss of respect, compassion, protection, security, support, sharing and care in the relationship.  This routine makes the victim lose self-esteem and is drained both physically and emotionally.

(For generalization purposes, I will be using the term him to refer to either a male or female.)

If you no longer feel empowered, inspired, comfortable and safe in your relationship, try to check if your partner has any of the following traits or habits because you could already be in a toxic relationship:

  1.  Makes you feel guilty of many failures.  This could be done subtly and not directly but this partner constantly says things that make you blame yourself and make you believe that you caused whatever it is that is not going well.  When done directly, this partner will blatantly finger point at you and blame you out front without him taking any responsibility for anything.
  1.  Grumpy and Displays bad temper.  You never get to wake up without feeling nervous if your partner is in a bad mood again for no reason at all.  This partner easily gets irritated and angry for the smallest bit of things or for no apparent cause at all. Tantrum and anger bursts cause you constant fear.
  1.  Over-Dependence. Your partner has no desire to show any effort of taking on responsibilities.  You are always in the front-line for decision making.  Finding solutions for almost every problem is all placed on your shoulders alone.  This could also involve financial dependence on your side. This partner relies on you for everything.  You may even be threatened with a suicide if you are not there for him.  He appears so weak (even if he is not sick) and needy that his presence alone drains you of any remaining energy you have left.
  1.  Belittling or correcting and name calling. It seems like all your moves lead to a losing dead end in the eyes of your partner. Your words are constantly corrected for grammar or mispronunciation.  Your style of hair or clothing is always insulted.   Your accomplishments are never good enough. Even your physical features are ridiculed or made fun at. He coins you with names, characters and tags that demean you as a human being. This is done when in public or when you are both alone.
  1. Dictatorship.  Freedom and comfort have lost their meaning in the presence of this partner.  All your moves are well guarded and demanded by the other. You are not allowed to speak your mind or bargain for some allowance.   Words you say,  your brand of clothing,  who your friends ought to be, what to eat, where you can go, what to engage in, or any other personal choices are all regulated and chosen by this kind of partner.
  1. Superiority Complex.  This partner feels so high and mighty and sees you only as a subordinate and not a partner.  A follower and not a mate.  A power struggle is very evident in your conversations and this partner will never let you win. The debates may seem endless and cause emotional drain on your part.  He makes you feel you can never be his co-equal.  He will say things that make you question your abilities  and achievements which result to you resigning to the notion that you can never be at equal standing with him. The concept of apology is usually absent with these types of partners.
  1. Interrupts you.  You never get to finish what you are saying with this person.  He always cuts you off in the beginning or middle of what you are saying.  He preempts what you want to express.  He enjoys hearing his voice and not what you want to say.
  1.  Uses you.  This partner gets to be very nice and caring only when he needs something from you. He makes you feel that it is your responsibility to keep serving his needs and wants.  His constant demand of certain favors or services indirectly feeds you the notion that if you are no longer useful to him, he will get angry and leave.
  1.  Breaks Promises.  There is no such thing as a word of honor for such partners.  They always make you hope for things they never fulfill.  They say flowery words to keep you believing in the “promises” but there is no effort seen on their side to fulfill what was pledged.
  1. Overly Possessive or being obsessed. Partners of this type tend to be religiously jealous of almost anything that comes between you and him.  You will not be allowed to go out with anyone unless he comes along.  You will even get into deep trouble if you merely look at someone else. He does not allow you freedom and space away from him.  You are monitored through constant calls and text messaging. You are required to build your world around him.  He will make sure you remember that he will never allow you to be free of him, ever.
  1. Complaining and Discontentment.  This person has nothing to say but all the woes he has in his life.  He constantly verbalizes lines that refer to things that don’t make him happy.  He never sees the good things you do but only sees the things you can’t and don’t give him.  He is never contented but always whines about things he dreams of and things he never gets to achieve.  You can never console and please this person enough.
  1. Stalking and Nosy.  These partners follow you around or check all your social media sites.  They investigate on all your affairs. They always ask other people about your activities and whereabouts when you are not together.  Your cellphones and other gadgets are not safe from his prying eyes. He will even track you down with your phone. Privacy is taboo with this toxic partner.  Your words are never enough and he will make sure he noses around enough to know anything else about you.

Again, the above negativities may only be considered toxic if they are done to you on a regular basis.  No one is truly perfect while in this dimension and so we must leave some space for occasional misgivings by our partner.  Remember that you might have also been guilty of any of the above at one point in your relationship.

Toxic partners are highly cunning.  In public or in front of friends or relatives, they act in almost untarnished ways.  Their exemplary personalities will never give anyone an inkling on who they really are inside.  They manipulate and control their partners and cause all sorts of damage behind the scenes.  These kinds of partners are also labelled as energy vampires who perform their nasty feedings in secret. They find pleasure on draining their mate of all remaining dignity and self-worth.

People who are prone to toxic relationships:

>  Suffered trauma or abuse in childhood

>  Adolescents

>  People with low self-image and low self-esteem

>  People who previously survived a failed relationship

>  People who are from broken or dysfunctional families

>  Women from highly religious denominations

>  Light workers and empaths

People who survived extensive traumas, separation from former loved ones and those who came from broken relationships have the tendency to look for someone they can depend on or cling to, no matter what the price.  Because they have lost so much of themselves to whatever past pain they experienced (this involved soul fragmentation), they are left lacking and needy.  They tend to hook up with a “stronger” person whom they think will be their savior, only to find out in the end that they dug a deeper grave for themselves.   They will cling to this partner even if they are being abused, fearing themselves ending up being left behind and abandoned again.  The fear of being alone is their motivating force to stay abused.

People who are obese, have certain deformities or language impediments are also very easy prey for toxic partners.  They have very low self-esteem and believe themselves so ugly and deformed.  Even if they know that their mates are already abusing them, they stay and submit, thinking no one will ever lay eyes on them anymore if their current relationship ends.  Whatever little self-respect and self-worth they had before entering such toxic coupling has been drained to nothingness.

Many adolescents allow themselves into toxic relationships out of peer pressure, wanting to belong, desiring to be cool and famous, fearing rejection and because of parental rebellion or parental abuse.

Women who belong to very religious sects are usually victims of such relationships.  Many Christian women are.  They are taught and expected to comply with the biblical teaching, “What God has joined together, no man must put asunder.”  They suffer and stay in their marriage fearing that God will punish them if they don’t keep their vows.  They will allow their spouse to abuse them and disempower them until the end.

Light workers, particularly empaths, are stoic victims of such relationships.  Because they operate highly on their heart chakras (which deal on the love frequency), they are born with the built-in mechanism to keep on forgiving and to heal everyone with love. They love others so much that they will not mind themselves being damaged. They feel that it is their responsibility to change the destructive patterns of their partners.  They stay patient and enduring through years and years of abuse because they believe in giving their loved one a million chances to change for the best.  Also, they easily feel guilty. Their spiritual check and balance is always on high alert to make sure they are not hurting anyone. Because of this,  they will go to the extent of blaming themselves thinking, they have done something which turned their partner to be so manipulative.  Their guilt will drive them to believe that leaving the relationship will mean that they are bad people who did not love enough or persevere at all.

If you are in a toxic relationship, you should never feel responsible for your partner’s cruelty.  Do not be afraid of being alone because the universe will never abandon you. You are loved and cared for by beings you cannot see.  If you only ask, they will be more than eager to give you the help and right company you need and deserve.   Do not be afraid of being wrong.  What your toxic partner is doing to you is what’s wrong and not you.  If you decide to end such a relationship, you should never feel ashamed or guilty because this only means that you are loving yourself first.  You can never give what you don’t have.  You can’t love and find the right love if you don’t love yourself first, in the right way.  Love is never abusing another.  Manipulation and control are tactics of selfishness, not love.  No one can hurt you unless you allow it.

Don’t ever think that allowing your partner to drain and disempower you is a way of loving.  Giving permission to this person to abuse you helps him become the worst he can be.  You are not even helping this person spiritually because you are allowing him to create more bad karma for himself.

While in their early stages, toxic relationships can still be mended.  Talking calmly with your partner and expressing how his acts affect you may help him realize his mistakes.  Also be keen at pointing out how you wish to be treated.  Do this in a time when both of you are relaxed and stress free.  Ask help from the Source and your invisible guardians to assist you in doing this.  After an agreement is made, give your partner time and room to change and help him change. Do your part. Remember that you cannot control your partner to change but you can change yourself.  Act and speak in ways that will not allow your partner to hurt or abuse you.  If nothing happens, seek counselling.  A non-biased, reliable and credible third party counselor may greatly help in healing wounded relationships.

If your partner does not change after calmly pointing out his abusive or degrading habits, and counselling has failed, here is a spiritual technique you can try to help save your relationship:

The Realization Shield and Love Bubble

When you are alone, allow yourself to be completely covered and protected by a mirror shield. Program this shield to protect you from your partner’s toxic advances.  Let the mirror be very powerful in making him see himself and all the wrong he is doing to you.  Ordain your mirror to deflect the negative effects of his acts and make him experience for himself how he makes you feel.  Allow the energy from your shield to emit a pinkish light on him.  This is love energy.  Ask this energy to heal him of whatever may be causing his toxic patterns.  Allow this light to make him realize his mistakes and admit them.

Next, remember that we attract what we think and feel.  If you daily visualize your partner being very nice, kind and supportive to you, you will notice subtle changes in the next few days.  You will see that your partner will start acting in better ways. Events will be attracted that will help make him realize his mistakes.

Strongly visualize the harmonious and cooperative relationship you want for both of you.  Keep doing this and avoid thinking of your partner’s negative traits. Put these good thoughts in a giant bubble and step inside it.  Spiritually imagine pulling your mate inside the bubble. Keep holding each other’s hand.  Clearly visualize you both locked in that bubble of love, healing and bliss.  If you can bear a few more months and keep doing this spiritual exercise with enough desire, you will be amazed at how your relationship can heal.

Letting go:

Where physical violence and substance abuse are involved, it is very difficult or impossible to fix whatever relationship is left.  Physically hurting a partner and taking drugs are vicious habits that are very hard to rehabilitate.

In cases where the relationship is beyond repair after much effort, you must let go. Do not let the number of years you’ve been together or the few happy memories let you stay abused.

If you have children and they are your reason for staying, do not feel hindered because you are only saving yourself and your kids from further damage.  Children who grow up seeing their parents treating each other wrongly usually exhibit such detrimental patterns in their future relationships.  They will subconsciously adapt and believe that this is the norm and there is nothing wrong with it. Help yourself and help your children if you truly want the best for them.

It is easier and faster to be released from a toxic relationship when you perform spiritual cord cutting between you and your partner.  This method has been proven to be very powerful.  It will free you from whatever keeps you attached to the other person.  It will ease the pain of separation.  It will free you from constantly looking back at what you lost and what could have been if you did not leave.  It will relieve you from feeling responsible for the demise of the relationship and it will keep you from feeling guilty.  Feeling pity and feeling responsible for the toxic partner you have left will also be lessened and eventually erased because the strings he has attached on you will no longer be there to feed you wrong signals.  Your mind will be clearer and you will be more focused on building a new life without him.

Seeing danger from afar:

It is very true that you only see the real color of a person when you start living together for a certain period of time.  Natural tendencies and attitudes begin to show three months after living together.  The severity of bad attitudes and habits are full blown on the second year of staying together.  It is almost impossible to tell who a person is in the dating phase of a relationship but it is your responsibility to look for subtle tendencies and be wary of them.

During courtship and dating, one always puts his best foot forward to impress and attract the other.  When in the dating phase, be honest to yourself when you see some negative attitudes he has.  Spiritually shield yourself from the blinding hormones of sexual attraction and falling in love.  See the person for who he is and who he can become if he goes on with the strange things you noticed.  Love is not blind.  It has never been.  In fact, love enables you to see clearly beyond the human vision.  Love yourself enough so that you may see behind his “petty attitudes” that signal you: there is something wrong.

While there is still time and you are not in too deep into the relationship,  as soon as you spot a tendency for him to worsen with a habit, trait, addiction or attitude, get away already.  Who your potential partner is, is who he is. You cannot stop him from not being who he is by being his mate.  Stop fantasizing that you can change or improve him.  He may try to be “good” for a while in the early phase of your relationship but he will eventually revert to his old ways when things begin to get boring and problematic.

Whirlwind romances usually end up failing because there was not enough time to know each other deeper. Each partner gets shocked that the other is not who he really first appeared to be.

Give time before marrying or moving in with anyone.  This will give both of you ample allowances to adjust to one another.   You can discover more of each other so that when it’s time to live your lives as one, you have been emotionally briefed and prepared on how to deal with whatever worsening attitude one may develop or show as time goes by.

*All images courtesy of Google

Seng Guan Temple: My Experience with the Ten Thousand Buddhas

Seng Guan Temple is one of the most ornately built Buddhist temple in the Philippines. This towering oriental architecture along Narra Street in Tondo, Manila stands proud with its magnificent multi-tiered imperial roof.  A Dharma wheel on the front roof top’s edifice is a reminder of the cosmic order that rules the universe. The outer form of the temple is schemed with symbols of the culture which includes fierce dragons laced upon each other, bamboos and the like.

Visiting this holy sanctuary was not really in my list for the day but since I am a firm believer that nothing happens by chance, I found it and was so inspired by the experience. My guides knew I needed a big spiritual boost to keep me on track because I have been feeling quite down for a while. Perhaps, people like me would be able to relate.  Having gifts and spiritual responsibilities can really be draining at times.  I am not always on spiritual high gear.  There are days when I get to question if I’m really here on earth on a mission and whether all the metaphysical arsenal on my aura are real or not.  In short, I doubt myself. I subscribe to no particular religion but the Buddhist teachings seem to reverberate closest to my current spiritual path.  This is probably why my guardians chose this experience for me.

My experience began at the entrance, where I was greeted by two lion guardians who were not of stone alone.  They had live spirits in them. And they were terrific at doing their job:  protecting the temple from unwelcomed energy. 

A few steps more and whoever enters will be warmly greeted by the glassed image of Maitreya, the Happy Buddha.  He looked jolly and contented in his semi-lying position. With his large round belly and bulbous earlobes, he represents a long life of peace and fulfillment.  He, in feng shui, is also known as the Laughing Buddha.  He is a symbol of great benevolence in the Buddhist faith.

Entering further, the confident image of Bodhisattva Skanda stood behind Maitreya. He is also known as Wei Tuo and is regarded as a devoted guardian of Buddhist monasteries.  He is said to guard the Buddhist teachings.  I was not familiar with this being but I sensed part of his presence in the image.

I’m quite familiar with temples of this kind but seeing the three large golden statues before me in the center of the temple transfixed me to where I was standing. The energy inside was spell-binding. The golden image of Guan Yin, in the middle of two other bodhisattvas, emitted energies of serenity, unconditional compassion and great motherly love. There were smaller images of her in front of the glass casing and flowers were graciously offered before them.  

On the golden Guan Yin’s right side is Samantabhadra’s golden image, seated on an elephant. Also a bodhisattva, her name means Universal Worthiness or Universal Virtue. Her statue radiated a feeling of peace and concentration.  No wonder.  When I researched further about her, I learned that she is the embodiment of the Buddhist practice of meditation.  

On the left of Guan Yin is Manjushri boddhisattva.  He is said to be the embodiment of enlightened wisdom.  It is said that the triad of these three bodhisattvas represents the essence of what a Buddha is.

In the center, before the trinity, is a giant brass incense burner where all who pray put their incense sticks on. There were free joss sticks for anyone to use and the sign there said that one piece of incense is enough to for one’s petitions. I used three with a smile (I have this thing about threes, sixes and nines, you see).

We had no guide to tour us around and it was a week day with no much visitors, so we just went to other areas of the temple on our own. On the first floor’s left wing was a wide space with glassed golden totems inside. I was not able to see the room’s name upon entering.   With such shine and glitter coming from the little rectangular totems, I would usually feel lightness and magnificence.  Instead, I felt heavy.  I also sensed sadness.  The feeling I didn’t like most was that of uneasiness and a sense of fear.  I did not understand at first.  My companion wanted to linger longer and look closer at the golden totems but I said that I couldn’t bear that hall’s energy.  I wasn’t able to take pictures because I left in a hurry.  When asked of my weird behavior, I answered, “The energy inside is different from the center hall.  I feel like there are a lot of spirits there. Dead spirits. It’s a bit scary and heavy.  It’s like a place for the dead.”

I immediately went back near Guan Yin’s area to pacify the unpleasant emotions I had. Her energy was so soothing.  It felt like she was my biological mother, assuring me that I was safe.   Then my eye caught the left wing’s name.  Hall of Love, Peace and Tranquility.  That was really weird for me.  I didn’t feel any of those emotions when I was inside. Upon researching on place, I discovered that that hall was a shrine dedicated to the departed ancestors of those who frequented the temple.   Each golden totem represented a deceased person.  A frame would cost around 100,000 php, depending on where it would be positioned in the glass showcase and how high the person’s rank or position was, while on earth.  Flowers, food and joss sticks would be brought there as offerings for their dead. It was then that I understood everything.  I was sensing the energies left by the relatives who visited.  I was also sensing the emotions of the spirits still lingering inside that particular area.  I knew there were plenty of them inside and they still have not moved on.

Next, we went up the stairs and saw a jaw dropping expanse of a hall at the center.  There are three meditating deities clad in gold (made of silk-mache) and they seemed larger than the trinity on the first floor.  On the center was Buddha Amitabha.  There also were red squared kneelers all over the wide open hall and there were signs put up, saying, “Chant Amitabha”. 

I was awed to see the intricate three-dimensional carvings all over this hall.  The golden etchings on the walls and the ceiling were meticulously done on wood.  The splendor of eastern art was extravagantly paraded with so much attention to detail. If you look closer, the ornamental bas reliefs would tell you stories about Siddhartha Gautama Buddha’s earthly journey. 

With such temple grandeur, it would be difficult to believe that the temple started as a simple single wooden room, under a very tight budget.  This richly adorned area is named, The Chanting Room, where one could recite mantras, sutras and other prayers.

On the second floor’s right wing is a much smaller room where a statue of female diety with several arms is displayed in a glass cabinet.  The energy in that room was not as alive as the former halls I have been to.  Although solemn, the feeling there was more reserved and individual.   The sensation would be comparable to being in adoration chapels in Catholic churches.

The golden colossal image of the Medicine Buddha in the large hall on the left would leave anyone spellbound.  I was immediately carried in a state of profound reverence and instinctively bowed three times before the gigantic meditating image.  The energy coming from the statue was very strong and yet very gentle.  It was like he was telling me that I should take things easy, must not be too serious and that things would get better with my health (being an empath has caused me to be usually ill) and everything else.

Upon entering, without knowing the name of the area, I telepathically sensed the presence of so many towering light beings who were greeting me with a solemn bow.  The sacredness these being emitted was so humbling and yet immensely divine.  They were so holy and yet they didn’t make me feel inferior or insecure of who I am. They made me remember my importance in the great scheme of things which I was already doubting before I visited the temple. It was an unconditional compassion, similar to what Quanima (Guan Yin/Avalokitesvara) emitted in the hall below.   In my mind’s eye, they seemed to reach more than a hundred feet in stature and numbered more than a thousand.  I didn’t notice that my eyes were already filled with tears while communing with the healing energy they shared.  I felt so much love and peace in that hall.  Upon leaving, I was informed that the area is called  The Hall of Ten Thousand Buddhas.  No wonder I saw so many of them inside.

On each side of the Medicine Buddha are enormous images of the Sun and Moon Buddhas.  They are said to be siblings who specialize in healing and they serve the Medicine Buddha. There was a gargantuan golden relief at the back which included the images of the Bodhisattvas Avalokitesvara, Manjushri, Dashizhi and Samantabhadra. Offerings of flowers, water and candles were bountifully laid on the altars which were richly adorned with golden bas reliefs.

Mounted on the side pillars are the vows of the Medicine Buddha to the sentient beings. Here, he promised to aid those inflicted with disease, those who are stricken with poverty and starvation, the prisoners and anyone who calls to him with a sincere heart.

When I was about to leave, the monk in the office immediately caught my attention.  He was quite far from where I was but the refreshing aura of devotion and purity which he emitted inspired me to go on with whatever my mission is on earth.  He exuded simplicity and the absence of materialism.  He was contented, focused and devoted; the qualities I was missing at the time.  Seeing him reinforced some waning virtues in me because I was too centered on things that did not really matter after all. The totality of my whole spiritual encounter in the temple revived my weakened state.  The beings who showed themselves inspired me so much and the messages they sent encouraged me to go on with what I still have to do.

I believe that Seng Guan Temple is not only fascinating because of its exquisite architecture and mammoth golden images, but it is even more spiritually energizing because of the energy transmitted by the enlightened beings who grace it.  They are alive and they generously bless and encourage the people who seek homage with love, comfort and healing.  It truly deserves its title, The Temple of Ten Thousand Buddhas.

What You Didn’t Know About Casual Sex


Our modern world is very open to casual sex.  Also known as free sex or liberated sex, it is the intimate physical union of two bodies without emotional attachments.   Any form of sexual coupling that is entered into, no matter how long or short which is without commitment, responsibility and most of all, love fall under this.

Casual sex comes in the following guises:

  1. One night stand (with someone you know or a stranger)
  2. Friends with benefits
  3. Sexual orgies
  4. Sexual experimentation and exploration
  5. Cyber Sex
  6. Porn Sex with masturbation
  7. Phone Sex Services
  8. Paid Actual Sex
  9. Random Hand Jobs and Oral Sex

Many engage in this form of sexual release primarily because they don’t want any “complication” which usually comes with having sex in a closed relationship. They see this as an easier way to enjoy sex without the litany of responsibilities and emotional, even financial baggage that come with being committed.  Males who are masters at this can even get away with unwanted pregnancies. 

The media, through movies, TV shows, soap operas,  comedy shows, advertisements and music depict sex as fun, free and accessible (because you can do it with anyone), romantic, healing and all the good things you were programmed to believe. The internet, even books and printed articles portray casual sex as easy, natural, stress-free, liberating and fun. Our society has been fed the information that this is a primal urge which man cannot control and so, he has to release it.  In turn, he becomes healthier, happier, focused and productive.   

People who freely engage in it usually believe that they are not hurting anyone with what they are doing because it is not forced or done without the other’s liking. Well, they are so wrong.  The word “hurt” is an understatement to all the negative effects of such acts.

Casual sex has never been as good and safe as we were made to believe.  The person’s spirit is greatly harmed.  When there is something sick or broken in one’s spirit, it will affect the physical body, including his social and psychological state.

Let me show you how this happens by first explaining what sex is in general.

We have been taught that sex is just the act of physical intercourse with another.  It may be done with an opposite or same gender partner.   It is first preceded by physical attraction, then arousal and ends with the act of coitus itself.  Well, sex is so much deeper than that.

Unseen Depths of the Sexual Act

When one has sex with another, not only do their bodies join.  Their souls or astral bodies unite as well. There is an absolute merging of the body, mind and spirit. There can never be a harmless random “casual” union because it involves a person’s whole being.  In the spirit or astral world, sex is seen as very sacred, not only because of the laws which religions have placed on it.  It is sacred because it involves the soul and spirit which are divine in nature. 

Even if you had sex just for 30 seconds, it still involved the union of each other’s auric fields. And it has long term effects that will transcend one’s generation and lifetime.

During the sexual union, both bodies emit a certain degree of light.  When this is emitted, souls in the spirit world, waiting to incarnate on earth eagerly watch.  When there is much love and pure devotion between the couple, they emit very bright beams of light.  These forms of coupling attract incarnating souls that are of higher awareness and spiritual development.  Children born out of this union are kind-hearted, balanced and more loving. On the other hand, partners who do intercourse without love, emit a grayish light.  These attract incarnating souls that are less experienced and have very low spiritual wisdom.  If pregnancy happens, children born will become very insecure, problematic and rebellious.

Remember that the aura of each person engaged in the sexual act is open to each other.  Contained in one’s aura are the person’s personality, habits, attitudes, talents and capabilities, spiritual debts and karma, blessings and curses, illnesses and diseases (including sickness that will still manifest later in life) and all sorts of emotional baggage.  When there is complete union of the auras, all that one has in his auric field melds with all that there is in hers. 

In a husband and wife relationship, it is a common occurrence that the woman easily senses if her husband is lying or has been unfaithful or is still in an extra-marital affair.  How do wives get this psychic ability?  
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As a married couple, their auras are always united and her soul easily “sees” and “feels” into his aura.  Her conscious mind is not aware but her spirit mind is, and so she senses this infidelity.  Also, have you ever noticed that the longer a couple stays married (and sexually intimate), the more they seem to “look alike” even if they each have very different facial features?  It is the blending of the couple’s auras that makes people perceive such a resemblance.

An important factor that we should take note of is that the presence of love is powerful and significant in the safety of both souls during the sexual act itself. If the act is caused by love, this light energy serves as a force field against negative energies hovering around the couple’s space. Their auras are exclusively open only to each other and are penetrable only by the same level of light energies. 

If there is no love, and lust is the primal cause of the act, both persons are open for dark energies to enter both their fields.  Negative entities of this kind hook themselves deep into the aura of the chosen partner and will feed from the host indefinitely.  Lustful entities are highly attracted to this kind of lustful union.  The person chosen to be the prey of these types of “demons” will be more and more lustful and will crave for more similar unions.  That is why people who have tried casual sex once tend to have succeeding free sex events.  Also, they become afraid and unwilling to enter a committed relationship.  Or if they ever enter into a committed relationship, they will still be unfaithful or promiscuous after a while.

Another occurrence during intercourse is soul fragmentation.  This happens whether it be a union with or without love.  As soon as both bodies and soul separate, part of the soul body of one partner is taken by the other and viceversa.  This leaves both souls fragmented or both their souls are not whole anymore. Part has been taken by the other, leaving a feeling of incompleteness or insufficiency to the other.  If a major part has been taken away, this results to severe depression, emotional incapacity, psychological issues and withdrawal.

In deep loving relationships, soul fragmentation happens in chunks. Couples who love each other tend to give almost all of themselves and at the same time, want to take almost the whole being of the other. This emotion is put into spiritual action during the sexual union. They fragment each other’s soul and the exchange is done with full permission.   When a partner leaves, he/she takes with him/her that which was originally part of the other. That is why it takes years for one to truly and completely move on or get over the other partner if they get separated or one dies.  This gives credibility to the lines, “I feel so broken and empty now that she’s gone”, and, “He took my heart with him when he left”.

In a non-loving casual sex scenario, fragmentation happens but in very different ways.  The fragmentation occurs because one is only attracted to that part of the person.  The soul that is needy of that particular attribute takes it away from the other’s soul.  This leaves the other feeling something is missing and yet clueless about it.  The person fragmented or unwhole will feel emptiness, a sense of unfulfillment and unfaithfulness. He/she will constantly have multiple partners, because of the subconscious need to search for the soul’s missing parts.

It is also interesting to note that during the sexual union, both partners tend to feed on each other’s energy and the ingestion is very powerful.  It is usually the weaker one that feeds on the stronger.  Here is an example.  Have you ever noticed a steady couple with the man being years older from his mate and yet it seems like the woman looks almost as matured as him?  What caused this could be explained this way:  The man, being older, has a weaker life force as compared to his woman.  Every time they have sex, he tends to suck much of the woman’s youth energy.  This makes him physically stronger and potent and leaves the woman, partially depleted of her youthful energy and appearance. She, out of her love for him, was unaware yet shared part of her youth to him. And because the imparting of such energy was done in love, she will look older but she will not be sickly. 

This feeding also happens in cases where there is no love involved. It is a form of energy vampirism because the energy sucked from the sex partner was not given willingly by the other soul. For example, an old rich man pays for the sexual service of a young female.  This old man will feed off her youth during the opening of their auras without her conscious permission.  She has been vampired and preyed upon, by the old man, of energy she unwilling lost and this will result to her looking haggard and feeling weak. If this young lady goes on having paid sex with older men, she will, soon enough look old and will have all kinds of recurrent infections and diseases.

The case just mentioned is not far from rape or forced sex scenarios.  Victims of this kind of sexual union become depressed and sickly.  How did this come to be?  Let me explain in a simple scientific way.

When anyone or a female, for example, is forced into sex, her body undergoes severe stress.  This stress triggers an alarm from her hypothalamus (a tiny region at the base of the brain).  This electrical and chemical alarm signals her adrenal glands to secrete two stress hormones, adrenaline and cortisol. These hormones suppress the digestive, reproductive and immune systems to allow a focus of energy for a fight or flight reaction.  If the stress stays for too long, her body will begin to weaken because the three bodily systems are not processing normally.  Much acid will be produced from the digestive system and released into the blood stream.  This makes the body acidic and such an environment is host to all illnesses and diseases.  The immune system is continually placed on a halt, thereby making the body open and weak against sickness.  The reproductive system which is still suppressed, will exhibit symptoms of hormonal imbalances in the female and sex related problems.

 

The Aftermath of Casual Sex

Casual Sex is not shallow at all and the trail of devastation it brings to the persons involved is horrendous.

Since the astral bodies (spirit bodies) and auras of both partners unite during liberated sex, many traits, habits and vices that one has will be shared by the other.  Aside from those, all unpleasant energies and karma, including present and future illnesses will be passed to the other. Even unfavorable spirits attached to one will be received by the other. Curses will also be shared.

Casual sex is never motivated by love.   A negative feeling, like lust or fear is what fuels it. Since this act is empowered by a negative source, only the dark and bad in one’s aura is transferred to the other. Have you ever heard of a poor prostitute who became instantly rich after having sex with a rich man (Unless the rich man falls in love with the prostitute and takes her as his permanent mate)? No.  It is usually the rich man who will have financial difficulties after such acts.  The “richness” of the man was not shared to the prostitute because there were the negative energies of lust for the flesh (rich man) and fear to have no money (prostitute) in the act.  This allowed the energy of financial difficulty from the prostitute to transfer to the rich man.  (Please note that I have nothing against prostitutes.  I have deep respect for them as humans and for braving such difficulties and risks just to earn a living for their loved ones.)

In a loving sexual relationship, even the good talents, gifts, abilities and blessings can be passed to each other.  Love will allow the movement of positive baggage from one aura to another.

After intercourse, the person will begin experiencing whatever sense of reality the other one has.  Events and incidences commonly attracted by the other will now be magnetized by this person.  Even the other’s emotional state and vices will manifest in this person’s life.

Unexplained sadness, emptiness, confusion or guilt are the early symptoms one will experience after casual sex.  One’s way of thinking will begin to change and get distorted.  One will begin liking different things or activities. Habits will shift, including hobbies. Mood changes will be frequent, including feeling easily drained and sick. Even changing tastes and lifestyles will manifest in a short time.  Eventually, the deep effects of a fragmented soul will surface causing depression and hopelessness. In the end, one’s authentic self will be will be drowned and lost.

I recall a singer friend of mine several years ago.  I knew her as someone who didn’t drink alcoholic beverage.  She once had this infatuation with one of her admirers.  He was a middle aged business man who frequented the lounge she was working at.  He always looked haggard and he would always drink several bottles of beer before leaving.  He watched her perform almost every night.   She finally went to bed with him around three times for a span of two weeks.  I noticed subtle changes in her in their early casual sex activities.  She was harsher in her words and she began looking tired all the time.  What really called my attention was her suddenly fancy in beer drinking.

A close relative of mine is another example of the sharing of bad luck in casual sex.  He was a very successful business man.  He had a fine wife and a beautiful family.  All was well in his life until he entered into a new type of business which required him to buy-out his clients through wine and women.  This strategy was essential to win certain contracts.  He was earning millions with just a single deal.  Because he always had to up stay late away from his family, his wife started demanding that he just quit that kind of business.  He got fed up with her bickering and began sleeping with the high class prostitutes he used to win his clients with.  He eventually found one of them whom he chose to have regular sexual relations with. He was promiscuous for years. He spiraled into alcoholism.  I used to admire him for his refined, dignified and classy personality but he changed.  He turned into a vulgar and cheaply dressed gambler.  In as fast as 3 years, his businesses were shutting down one by one.  His children were going astray and his wife was always sick and depressed (She too was affected by the negative karma passed on to her by her husband).  He himself began having health problems.  They sold their properties one after the other just to be able to pay their bills.  In the end, he died very poor because of incurable diseases and he was not even able to afford any form of hospitalization.

This relative of mine shared the karmic load of the prostitutes he had casual sex with.  These women were poor and they had no choice but to sell their bodies to survive.  He absorbed these negativities in his aura.   He too experienced their poverty.  His aura was open as well to other negative entities that fed on him until his death.  Promiscuity, alcoholism, gambling and the extreme changes in his personality were obvious effects.

I would like to add that the detrimental effects of casual sex go beyond a person’s generation. The dark energies which the person inherited from his casual sex partner will stay with him and flourish even to his children and grand children. These opportunistic beings are transferred when one’s child is born.  They will stay and camp close to the child until the time comes that they succeed in gaining entrance to its aura through vices such as free sex, drugs, alcoholism, smoking, gaming addiction, pornography or other forms of destructive activities. Once they gain entrance, the vicious cycle of desolating the soul begins. If not healed, these negative entities will live within their bloodline for generations.

When I was analyzing this relative’s story, I discovered that his father was also a womanizer.  My relative was an only son.  He lost his promiscuous father early in life and he alone worked his way to financial success, until the dark entities his father unknowingly passed to him, found a way to gain entrance into his aura.  These dark beings set him up by using money.  Then they prepared more traps until he fell into free sex.  This let them gain entrance into his astral body and his life.

I just learned recently this relative’s son got separated from his wife because she caught him sleeping around. He also was doing drugs already.   This is a sign that the so called “demons” that ruined his grandfather and father had gained access into his life, as well.

This explains why we often notice that patterns are repeated through generations.  For example, a drunkard usually had an alcoholic parent.  A philandering wife had an unfaithful parent. A drug addict had drug addicts for parents.  A heavy chain smoker had a parent just like him, and so on.

It is essential to know that when you engage in casual sex, you not only receive whatever karma and negative baggage your partner has. You also inherit all other loads this partner received from her/his other casual sex partners. Just imagine all the ugly and heavy burdens of so many people you don’t even know, transferring and taking permanent residence in your aura and taking control of your life! You essentially become someone you don’t know or you don’t ever want to be.

Liberated sex creates soul ties which transcend time and space. When one dies, if he was not healed of the ruin he did to his astral body, all that he received from others through casual sex will follow and affect him in future incarnations.  The unlearned lessons or karma of others, now his as well, will be added to the hurdles he will have to master and overcome in succeeding lifetimes.

Healing the Self

For you to be totally healed from the destruction brought about by casual sex,  you have to undergo spiritual cord cutting, entity attachment removal and soul retrieval.  These are usually done for you by expert healers and shamans.  But what if you live in a place where you can’t find any of these types of people?  And what if you don’t have the money to avail of their services?  Will you be doomed and should you start feeling hopeless?

I was born a healer.  I knew how to perform spiritual techniques long before I knew how to read.  As the years passed, I was informed of my mission:  TO TEACH AND REMIND HUMANITY (of who they really are) AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, TO RE-EMPOWER THEM.

I am including, in this article, my personal and tested method on how you can cut the cords you have between the people you had casual sex with and how to detach from spirits that have deeply attached themselves on you, by yourself.  You have the power to do this.  Believe that you could and it will happen.

I will write separately on Soul Fragmentation and Soul Retrieval.  These are different topics and how to do this is different. Also, soul retrieval takes a while.  The soul parts you lost through casual sex, after soul retrieval, may return in as fast as 5 minutes and as long as you can imagine.  

I purposely prioritized the spiritual cord cutting and spirit attachment methods to immediately put a stop to the pain in your life. These should also be done to avoid further harm you may cause to any partner you currently have. 

Soul Retrieval must be done as an immediate follow up because you have to be whole again.  Soul Fragmentation means one’s soul has parts missing.  This results to restlessness, constantly looking for “happiness” in things and people, hopelessness, a feeling of loss and severe depression and discontentment.  People with fragmented souls don’t find fulfillment in any relationship.  They eventually develop addictions and vices to satisfy a need or yearning they cannot identify.

As I said,  you have the free gift to heal yourself.  But if you doubt, it would be best to seek the professional  help of a shaman or experienced healer.

(For people who live in the Philippines, please think several times before seeking help from albularyos, manggagamots and peddlers in Quiapo.  You may be doing more harm to yourself if you are not careful.  Make sure you get help from true Light Healers.)

If you have engaged in casual sex and wish to end the destructive cycle, begin by admitting to yourself that you made a mistake.  You need to determine the cause of an illness in order for you to administer the proper cure.

Once you sincerely realize the wrong you have done to your body, recognize the damage you have also inflicted in the life of the one you had casual sex with.

“A humble and penitent heart is one that heaven listens to.” This is what my Higher Self told me when I was still so little, and I never forget it.  Be humble enough to admit and confess your mistake through prayer. 

  1.  Call on your Godhead, your Higher Self and all your protective guardians to assist you in this releasing.  Ask them to surround you, protect you and empower you to accomplish this task.  Ask them to shut your space away from all lower forms of entities and energies.
  1.  Call on your other selves from other lifetimes who also engaged in the same activity and unite with them in one body.  See yourself merging with each one of them until you all become one.
  1.  Call on your guardian healers to surround you. 

  1.  Visualize cords stemming from your body and connecting to the body of the one/s you had casual sex with. This will include people in this lifetime and all other incarnations you had.  These cords are what still link your aura and astral body to others.  Ask your healing guardians to help you see all these cords. 
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  2. 5.  Ask your Godhead or Higher Self to give you the most powerful cutting device you will be using to sever all these cords from your body.  Say thank you and proceed by cutting each cord one by one until all cords have been cut.
  1.  See yourself free from the entanglements from these people and ask your healing guardians to assist you in sealing off the parts from which you cut the cords.  Seal these “wounds” with forgiveness and love.  If you don’t seal each part properly, these chords will grow back and re-attach to the same person again, so don’t be in a hurry in sealing.
  1.  After you have sealed your side, send your sincerest apologies to the ones you had casual sex with.  Send forgiveness as well, for the damage they have caused you.  Then say “I love you,” (and mean it).  Ask your healing guardians to help you seal their end of their severed cord with love.  This should be done so that they won’t attach themselves to other people.

8.   Now that you have been freed, ask your protective guardians to find all hiding and deeply latched negative energies and entities in your aura and astral body/soul.  Ask them to gently escort these entities away from your energy field and away from your space. Your guardians will know where to send them. Bid these entities goodbye and send them forgiveness, love and an honest from the heart, thank you.  Wait!  You must be wondering why you should be nice to these “demons” and worse, send them a sincere “thank you”. You must realize that these entities have played a crucial role in helping you learn more about life and pain. Their inflictions helped you gain strength in ways we will only realize in some other time.  They, no matter how dark, deserve our gratitude.  Never gloat at them or say anything damaging or hurting to them.  Instead, have mercy on them and send them healing so that they may find the way back to the light.  Learn to treat others the way you want to be treated when you have done something wrong. Remember that we learn from making mistakes and experiencing pain. So be nice.

  1.  Next, ask your healers to begin healing the deep wounds these entities caused you.  Ask them to energize you so that you look all brand new and shiny. 
  1.  With the help of your protectors, seal your aura, your astral body and physical body so that such entities will never be able to enter again.  Use a protective shield of your liking and program it with whatever you wish it to do. Say thank you and I love you to your shield.  These words will strengthen it further.
  1.  Lastly, look at all your guardians and thank them all so much for the assistance, healing and love they sent you.  Do the same with your Godhead and your Higher Self.  End your session by telling them and yourself that you will now be very cautious and protective of your physical and spiritual bodies.  Then, mean it.

These cord cutting and healing sessions are a very exhausting and laborious task.  Do it when you are not tired and when you are in a good mood. Don’t be in a hurry when you are in the process. This work is only for cutting the connections with other people and healing some of the damages.  Again, a different healing session is needed for Soul Retrieval. 

(For questions or assistance, you can email me : crystaltouch333@gmail.com )

In closing, remember that your body, no matter how imperfect, is sacred.  It is where your divine soul resides. Treat your body with love and respect.  After all, it is the only one that you can really call yours in this life. If you want to be loved the right way, start by loving yourself, your body, the right way. When you do this, you will attract the same energy. You will find the kind of love you have always wanted.

Only give yourself (in sex) to someone you are willing to share your whole life with.  Reserve your body for someone you will love enough, to make you willing to accept all that this person can bring into your life: good or bad.  It is only love that can heal the hurts, pains and burdens another has.

RememberNever have sex with someone you don’t want to  become.

*All images courtesy of Google

How To Boost Your Prayer Power

     Just in case you still don’t know, praying for a particular intention and making it happen, is a power anyone can harness.  In my previous article, I mentioned that thinking of something by itself is already a form of a prayer which we are sending out to the universe.  What we will be dealing with here is a certain form of prayer which we call intended prayer.

Have you ever noticed other people who, when they pray, get immediate results?  It’s like they have this cheat code in sending out their petitions because you have personally witnessed the results.  Well good news! There really is a cheat code, though it is not really cheating.   I will be teaching you techniques which have been kept for centuries by the ruling elite.  These are the essential secret ingredients to very effective prayers.

Our history is actually a list of lies.  Events have been altered in such grotesque ways so that a few elite bloodlines can exert their power on the masses.  They have kept many truths away from the common man to disempower them and eventually, conquer, own and control the world, without being so obvious.

(Please see:  What Prayer Really Is) 

Prayer is so powerful but it has been manipulated to weaken man’s real power.  Religions and certain sects have placed many conditions and criteria on prayer which in turn, gave a negative stigma to it.  This resulted to less people praying because they either have less or no results in their prayer life. They get tired and eventually, lose faith in praying.   Others live their whole lives never experiencing intentional prayer. It is usually because they witnessed their parents, family or friends praying but see those prayers left unheeded. They’d rather do things without outside help which is so sad because they are missing out on the magnificent assistance of powerful unseen beings of light! 

The analogy of a person, using just plain human strength and understanding in achieving somethinghe desires, is like working alone in the time of the cavemen. That time, work was harder and less was accomplished because tools were crude and inferior.  Simple machines were not yet invented which made good results impossible to achieve. 

On the other hand, a person who is mightily armed with the secret of powerful prayer is like a person surrounded by a host of specialists in all fields, fully equipped with the latest there is in technology. 

Of course, the one who accomplishes more and gets more results with the least stress is the latter.  Won’t you also want that for yourself?  

  1.  Choose Who You Pray To.

When you pray, you have to know who it is you are really praying to.  There are so many entities in the Universe who have capabilities of performing miracles but are not so different from humans in the sense that they are governed by desires and instincts.  They, although in spirit and are more powerful, still have the lower instincts and desires of man. They have an agenda behind every good deed.   They are always listening and watching the human race.  They jump at any opportunity they see to take advantage of your need.  They will do anything just so they can feed off others’ energies. 

Let us take the Nagas, for example.  They are unseen miraculous serpent-like beings from the animal realm.  They have the power to grant humans immediate help in terms of health (especially in cancer, stroke and paralysis conditions), wealth and relationships.  They grant swift assistance to seemingly impossible situations but the price to pay is quite high.  Many acts are required in return for a favor and if offended, they may cause you your very life.

Always be careful as to who you would be asking help from.  I personally ask help from the One Source, from my Higher Self and from my Guardians, whom I have been aware of since childhood.  There are times when I seek assistance from the higher enlightened ones who have closer and direct access to earthly matters.  These types of beings require nothing in return.  They help out of mercy and unconditional love because they have more wisdom and knowledge which make their light brighter.

Lower entities can disguise themselves as light beings to deceive humans.  At first, they will appear very loving and unconditional in all their kind acts but eventually their selfish motives will resurface.  This is common in miraculous healings and apparitions in many countries.

In the Philippines, Sto. Niňo (little child Jesus) miracles are widespread.  I have personally witnessed some of the miracles like tears of oil being shed by a statue. Some images cry tears of blood.  Others are said to be seen walking around as a naked little boy.  I was around ten years old when my parents sought healing from this kind of entity.  My father was very ill and he lost his hearing from both ears and also lost his job.  In desperation, my mother took my father to this Niňo and offered eggs and prayers as directed by the “nag-aalaga ng santo” or the owner of the said miraculous image.  I was surprised because the day after, my father gained hearing on his other ear.  In a few weeks, he had several business contracts worth millions. At that age, I was already gifted with strong discernment and I knew there was something wrong.  I sensed that payback time was not so far away.  After a time, my parents stopped offering eggs or prayer visits to the image.  In a few years, although my parents’ financial conditions multiplied in such a fast pace, things were falling apart in the family.  Eventually,  even their financial standing nose-dived. In short, what was given as a glorious miracle turned into a curse and everything ended worse than ever.

We should always be vigilant, highly sensitive and discerning in such matters. We should not be blinded by whatever glitters or shines.  Let us not let desperation push us to seek refuge or aid on something or someone whom we have not tested. 

It is essential that when you pray, you immediatelysurround yourself with a spiritual shield that will not allow lower dark energies to penetrate.  Imagine yourself in a protective bubble of light (you can design it in whatever shape or color) and thank this sheath.  Tell it to appear around you each time you pray to your Godhead.  Instruct it to wield off any lower energies from your aura so that these beings may not hear or steal your prayers.  Allow this shield to be penetrable only to whoever you wish to direct your prayers to.  When this is done, begin praying and trust that your prayers are safely on their right way.  

  

  1. Have A Clear Intention.         

Decide clearly on what you want.  Also, be very sure that you are ready for all the possible effects of what you are praying for.  Be very detailed in whatever it is you wish to receive.  Don’t vacillate in what you are praying for because this will create confusion in the ethers. Stop changing your mind every now and then.  When you have decided on what you want, focus on this intention and have the strong desire to receive.  Remember that intense desire is a key ingredient to receive a petition.         

Just in case you are not sure of what to pray for, ask your Godhead to grant that which is best for you. Seek which will be for your best interest, even if you don’t know what it is, yet.  Ask, also, that you will have the heart to accept whatever the answer will be.  This is actually the best way to pray when you are confused, desperate or lost. 

Most of the time, we pray for certain things and when they happen, we are not happy with the effects.  We realize that we have prayed for the wrong thing because we were not focused enough.  Lower emotions such as fear, anger, guilt, doubt, jealousy, envy, selfishness, etc. are the culprits for a wrong focus.  When we sense that we are not in line with the energies of light, it is best to ask for what should be given us and not what we want. 

Your Higher Self hears all your prayers even if you direct them to Buddha, Allah, Jesus or anyone.  When you pray for assistance and you don’t know what kind of assistance is needed in your situation, your Higher Self, who knows everything about you and your pre-planned life chart, will automatically mediate and send the best kind of help.  This kind of answer is the best because it was given by the one who knows the purpose of your being in this lifetime.

  1. Check for Energies That May Block Your Prayer.

Negative emotions like unforgiveness, anger, doubt and fear are energies that do not make your prayers effective.  If possible, do everything in your power to ask for forgiveness to anyone you wronged if you are in deep need of spiritual assistance.  If you cannot ask forgiveness personally, do so sincerely in spirit.  Also forgive those who wronged you if you expect miracles to happen.  These unresolved issues dim the light which our prayers release in the universe.  Your mind becomes unsettled because of unresolved emotional issues.  You can’t focus clearly on what you want if you don’t have peace of mind.      

Also, it is best to check, balance and cleanse your chakras before praying.  This way, each of the pools of energies in your body is aligned and properly functioning.  When your spirit body and physical body are in harmony, the prayers released are strongest.

  1. The Power of Visualization.

I often get the notorious comment, “How’d you get your petitions answered every time and why so fast?” or “What sorcery did you use to get what you wanted right away?” Of course, there are times when I don’t get a yes to some of my requests but most of the time, I get them and they come immediately or soon enough.  How and why?  

When I have a particular intention, I inform the Source and my Higher Self of the need I have. This is called aligning myself with the One. This alignment allows “them” to give that which is best for me or for whomever I am praying for.  Then, I check for the “local” dieties of light assigned for that certain issue. (While on this earth plane, there are certain enlightened helpers and protectors who are assigned in this realm.  Each has his/her own field of specialty.) I tune in and see this being or beings in my mind’s eye very clearly and then I begin to communicate directly.  Seldom do I pray without seeing who I pray to.  Seeing them alive, powerful and full of love makes me believe that assistance is on its way!

I understand that not everyone is gifted with this capability of seeing who they are praying to.  This is where the ability to visualize comes in handy. Visualizing is targeted imagining. You must see the image of what you want or what you want to happen, clearly in your mind.  Create the picture of what you desire and then be able to send this image to your Godhead.  

It is also very powerful to see yourself (in your mind) already holding what you have prayed for or already experiencing what you asked.

Many recite prayers out loud while their thoughts wander somewhere else, and then wonder why their petitions were not granted.  It is because the universe does not communicate in a certain dialect or language.  We communicate to the Spirit through images in our minds and with the emotions we release.  This is the very reason why clear visualization is very essential. 

  1. Using Affirmations and Mantras.

Affirming is asserting and believing that you will get what you prayed for or better yet, the one that you prayed for is already on its way to you. Affirming is saying to yourself that it shall be done. 

Your words and actions play a big role in affirming what you want. If you prayed for something, make sure that all you will say about that request will be something positive.  It is futile to pray for something and tell your friend that you’re not sure if you would have it.  Leave no room for doubt.  For example, if you pray for healing, stop saying “I’m sick.”  Just keep quiet about it if you still feel some symptoms.  If you really have to speak about it, say, “I’m going to get better, soon.”

Act like the one you prayed for is already arriving.  Prepare and set aside spaces for what you prayed for.  For example, if you want a new dining table, remove your old one.  Prepare and clean the space where you will be putting your new one.  While the space is empty, imagine the new dining table already positioned there.  If you want a new car, prepare the parking space it will be occupying.  You must show the universe that you are ready to receive.  There should be no room for doubt.  This is what you call faith in action.

Mantras are composed of sounds, words or group of words that endow the user mental, physical and spiritual might.  These are instruments that strengthen and empower the user through the sound of each letter or syllable.  The regular chanting of the syllable OM (Aum) alone has been scientifically proven to increase one’s ability to concentrate and to calm one’s nerves.

Mantras are usually Sanskrit in origin.  There are various mantras for all situations.  Each sound produced by each mantra releases a specific vibration that the universe understands and responds to.  Even our bodies and spirits react to these sounds and vibrate accordingly. 

During my “rush” moments when I can’t really put all my requests in prayer, I use a specific mantra again and again in my mind or sometimes, I chant them silently. I make sure that I see the words embracing all that I will be needing assistance with.  Also, I use mantras to end my regular quiet times with the Source.  This relaxes my mind from worrying if my petitions will be granted or not.

As an empath, I am very sensitive to sounds. I usually close my windows to prevent outside vibrations from entering my space because they easily make me sick.  I always play sacred mantra music at home.  I notice that when I play this kind of music, I am more focused and calm.  I don’t even remember having any negative thoughts. I feel energized and productive when working and I sleep soundly with it playing softly in the background.  Even my pets fall asleep when they hear it or if they are awake, they are very relaxed.  Even guests find my home very soothing long after the music has been turned off.

Mantras strengthen your aura and lend you a protective barrier. They grant you positive energies which imprint on you for a time. Positive vibes relax your body and spirit. When you are calm, it is easier for you to focus on what you want and it would help you pray powerfully.



  1. Using Tools to Boost Your Concentration.           

When praying for something, you need to be completely in that state of receiving.  Sometimes, when we are tired or stressed, it is hard to focus on our prayer.  This is when tools come in handy.  They are not necessary for the prayer itself but they are very helpful in making your mind centered and focused. 

You must help yourself focus and believe by creating the environment that would set your mood into feeling worthy to receive and strong enough to manifest.

tumblr_m8x2p9bzyv1qziitfFor centuries, the use of candles is believed to grant prayer requests.  It actually does not make the prayer more powerful but it strengthens one’s faith.  Candles are used in various colors for certain intentions by candle work practitioners.  They are cleansed and anointed with oil.  Some even engrave symbols on them for specific intentions or spells.

In Quiapo, for instance, many peddlers sell thick black candles.  These are mainly used to inflict a curse on someone who has wronged you or to cause someone to experience unwaivering guilt or emotional pain. In truth, it is not the candle itself that produces such results.  It is just instrumental for the aggrieved to focus his/her intention and enhance the emotion further.  It is a psychological placebo. Merely seeing the color black and the wick burning makes the brain relate such symbolism to something negative.  This, together with the belief that its smoke carries the prayer straight to whomever they wish to, is powerful enough to produce thought forms and emotions that would fuel the prayers.  Remember that prayers may come in the form of both blessings and curses.

Burning incense has the unique ability to penetrate the ethers, when properly programmed.  It aids in cleansing or purifying your prayer area from negative energies that could distract you or steal the energies you unknowingly release when you pray.  The use of scented incense and fragrance oil release fumes which tame the brain waves. The various scents given off by them allow the person to feel particular emotions. For example, Nag Champa is used to focus the mind during yoga and meditation. Sandalwood is used to promote a calm and expanded wellbeing.  You may use incense or fragrance oil to unburden you and relax your body and mind before going into prayer or meditation.  Choose a scent that would enhance whatever you wish to attain.

Music has the ability to transport you to certain dimensions.  Notice that there are melodies that make your heart heavy, even if you don’t hear any lyrics to it.  There are those that are not musical at all but when you listen to them, they energize and uplift you from being depressed.  It is because each type of music or beat delivers a particular frequency that makes or breaks your mood. It puts memories, thoughts or images in your mind even without you knowing it.  The tempo, affects  your heart rate.  

The ruling elite and upper echelons are very much aware of the power there is in music that is why they use the recording industry as a means to control the masses.  They enslave and destroy humanity by way of song and dance.  Many international pop artists are puppets to this agenda.  We must be very careful in the types of music we listen to or even sing ourselves.

The frequencies that singing bowls release are highly beneficial for one to reach a certain level of concentration.  Merely listening to it, if sensitive, makes one feel like his or her body is vibrating.  Singing bowls are very handy meditation devices because the sound they give off keeps your mind focused.

Using scalar pendants, orgonites or pyramids are highly prized instruments to boost your concentration.  They keep EMFs (Electromagnetic Fields) at bay.  EMFs have very bad effects on one’s brain and body.  They cause many pains, illnesses and diseases.  They cause unexplained headaches and body pains.  EMFs worsen ADD and Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder symptoms. Also, EMFs are very hospitable to lower negative energies.  Homes with more electronic gadgets and electrical devices produce very high EMF readings.  These houses are usually reported as highly active in paranormal or ghostly activity.  Such homes also cause its dwellers to be more depressed and sickly.

Others meditate or pray under or inside a pyramid because it centers the mind and body.  It pushes away energies of confusion and indecision. All lower energies can’t penetrate a pyramid.  Orgonites and scalar pendants with very high negative ion readings also have this capability.  These instruments mend one’s aura as already shown in many Kirlian Photos.  They also enhance a person’s ability to communicate with the unseen realm.  Constantly wearing a scalar or orgone pendant develops the psychic ability of the wearer.  I personally don’t go anywhere without any orgonite on me.  This helps keep, not only EMF and radiation far from me, but it helps keep negative entities from feeding off me.

I recall going out with my relatives and taking pictures outdoors.  It was night time then and the place we were in was noted to be somehow, haunted.  Upon viewing the pictures we took, it was very noticeable that they all had a lot of orbs around them.  But when I was the one in the picture (and I was wearing my favorite orgone), there were no orbs around me.  Not one.  Orbs, by the way, are energy balls of supposedly ghosts or spirits trying to manifest themselves.

  1. Bodily Positions to Intensify the Feeling.

Of course you can pray when you’re lying down.  But the question is, will this position strengthen your feeling towards prayer?  There are certain positions that enhance your energy field.  Slouching your back misaligns your chakra centers and weakens your aura.  When your aura is weak, the energy you release for prayer is also compromised.  

Notice that many who do yoga sit in the so called “lotus” position.   In a sitting position, one’s back is straightened while the lower legs are crossed with each foot resting on the thighs. This position makes the body more relaxed. Blood flow is regulated and much oxygen is delivered to the brain.  Stress is eliminated which facilitates a calm mind, therefore, a highly focused state.

It is essential that you choose a bodily position that will motivate you to pray.  Choose a stance that will make you feel more powerful. This feeling of calm and confidence motivates for a stronger belief or faith in whatever you are praying for.

If you doubt the power of bodily positioning, try this when you are in public:  Try to walk with your back slouched.   Then see the difference on how people suddenly look your way and seem to notice you when you stand and walk with your back straight.  Keeping your spine (and your chakras) properly aligned gives you the energy of confidence and magnetism.  These are exuded in your aura.  This will attract the attention of other energies and cause people to take notice of you, as opposed to when you were slouching.

If praying while bowing or kneeling makes you feel closer to whomever you are praying to, do it.  Whatever position you choose, as long as it makes you feel and believe more, will be the best position for your prayer time.






  1. Having a Thankful Heart.        

thank-youSaying, “thank you”, before a glass of water rearranges its water molecules beautifully.  This simple phrase is miraculous in itself.  It has the power to calm, heal, energize and return what has been given in several folds.  Gratitude in prayer is essential.  Even when you have not received anything yet, saying thank you for everything or anything allows the universe the go signal to give you more and more.  It is a universal principle that practicing gratitude gives you more of what good you deserve.

When you thank anyone, this results to a domino effect of more positive feelings that ripples outward from the person you thanked.  For example, you, out of nowhere, sincerely thanked your tired and dirty garbage collector after he empties your trash. You may not be aware but this garbage collector was so touched by your act of recognizing his efforts.  This will make his mood better and he will be inspired to work more.  This inspiration will produce good energy that will be passed on with each smile he gives away to his fellow workmates.  These workmates will also feel good because instead of a grouchy and smelly companion, they have been blessed with a smiling, hardworking, kind-hearted companion.  This smile will inspire them to be kind to others as well, even if things around them are not so pleasant.

I always thank things, animals and people around me.  I was just born making thank you as a hobby. I have always believed that saying thank you makes anyone feel important and it is our job to make people feel they are worth something good.  I thank my bed, pillows and blankets and in return, they grant me very sound restful sleep. My bathroom used to be scary and many have seen a ghost standing at a certain corner.  But when I started saying thank you to the bathroom itself for all its usefulness and comfort to my everyday life, the scary feeling disappeared and we no longer see the spirit stuck in the corner.  It was brighter and more relaxing to be in.

I close and begin my prayers with a big fat thank you.  Try this and sincerely be grateful when you do so in prayer and see how powerful your prayers will become.

  1. Release and Believe.

Lastly, when you pray, end it with full trust that it shall be heard and granted. Have faith. Do not worry on how it shall be granted.  Don’t give your list of solutions to the universe because it has its own intelligence and methods.  We humans have very limited capabilities in problem solving and analysis but the universe has countless master’s degrees on it.  Worrying on how things will happen is controlling the events in your highly marginalized capacity. Thinking and over-analyzing limits the universal force’s capability to utilize all means (beyond your thoughts could grasp) to help you. The universe is rich beyond your imagination and it can provide for anything you want or desire without running out. Just believe that it will come in the right time and relax.  The more you think of how you will get what you prayed for, or when, the more you are pulling your petition back to yourself and you are not allowing the universe to work on it.  Release your petitions fully to whoever you directed your prayer to.  Stop taking it back by constantly doubting or by being impatient.  Of course you can do follow up prayers but make sure that you do so, believing that it will come.

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What Prayer Really Is

I was motivated to write this article for the purpose of making PRAYER simpler and more user friendly. It is a gift to us that we use almost every minute of our lives but are just not aware of.  It so misused because of the unnecessary tags and details that generations have linked it with.  Its real power has not been fully tapped by many because of the No’s and Should Do’s imposed by religions.

I know many who claim that they never prayed in their entire life because they don’t know what it is or how it is done. Some tell me they don’t pray because they don’t like memorizing stuff.  Others say they don’t pray because it is tiring and boring. A number even swear that they will not pray anymore for various reasons.   I wish that through this article,  you guys will know what real prayer is, making it less complicated or confusing.
If you’re from the Eastern part of the globe, the word prayer is like saying “eat” or “food”. Prayer is an integral part of the populace’s reason for existence. It has been a practice for ages. It is their way of life,  their survival. They have a fierce belief that whatever they have become and will be in the future largely depends on prayer. Though religions vary, prayer is the common denominator.  In the West, prayer is still in it’s early stages of “popularity”  or practice.  Although more and more are believing in prayer, there still is a 35 to 43 percent margin of people who do not pray or who do not believe in such.


But what is prayer actually?

Prayer, most say, is talking to their God or diety or saint. It could be a long recitation of prepared litanies as used in rosaries, chaplets and novenas, even the memorized prayers before you sleep and eat. For others, it is a long chanting of mantras and sutras.  Different religions have their distinct “schedules” and “methods” for prayer. Let us take the Jewish for instance.  They have a prayer book (Siddur) where all their prayers for all events are written. They are very rigid in the sense that only a certain prayer  can be used for a particular endeavor. Even on which time of the day, each religion proposes that a certain prayer be said.  For Catholics,  they have the 3:00 Habit and the Angelus at 6 PM. Muslims are famous for bowing on their knees, no matter where they are, facing a certain direction at certain times of the day to pray to Allah.

Prayer exists because it is human nature to be emotionally needy.  There is a need to fill in the emptiness of hunger, sickness, sadness, fear, and a multitude of needs and wants. These are what motivates one to seek answers through prayer.

Did you know that a mother driving, while hoping that her teenage son is safe somewhere, is already saying a prayer?  A teenager, daydreaming about her crush and imagining them spending sweet time together, is also sending out prayer.  A little girl, caressing her pet cat in deep love while hoping she can buy it some kitty treats is also sending out prayer. Hoping the best for a dear friend who is about to go on a new venture in life is also a form of prayer, which we call a blessing. A man who, though just in his mind, wishes ill for a disliked neighbor is also praying.  This form is called a curse.

Simply put:  thoughts, coupled with emotions, is what prayer really is.

Let’s simplify PRAYER by listing what it really is not:

  1.  Prayer does not need words.

As soon as you think of something and add what you are currently feeling about that thought, you are already sending a clear message to the unseen realm of what you want or need.  The more emotion you put in a desired thought, the stronger your faith that it will happen. Faith is based on what a person feels.  The stronger the feeling, the stronger one’s faith.  Read or recited prayers prepared by various religions  have little or no effect at all. No matter how many lines you recite,  it would not yield any results or “answers”  because the intent or emotion is weak or absent.

Let me simplify this further.   Let us liken prayer to a car. A car has many brands and styles just like prayer has.  The driver of the car is the one praying.  The driver loads what he/she wants and needs inside the car. Let’s call the load of intentions, the dirty laundry. We want the car to reach a certain destination, which is the laundry station.

The desired destination could be one’s Godhead, a saint, ones’  relative who already passed on, etc. But the car won’t start and run towards the laundry station without gasoline, right? And for a sure and smooth travel,  it will also need good engine oil. Gasoline is the emotion and desire.  Faith is the engine oil. These (emotion, desire and faith) are the empowering forces that will mobilize the car to its destination.  Without such, the car won’t go anywhere  meaning, the prayer is dead.

  1. You don’t need to be in a certain position or mudra to pray.

Some people kneel when they pray.  Some lay face down on the ground.  Some keep bowing repeatedly until their prayer is done. Others do the Lotus position.  Others use hand gestures. Whatever practices certain religions instruct,  let us respect what they do. If you yourself practice a certain position or action when you pray, do so, only if you feel that it would strengthen your belief that your prayers would be heard.

  1. Prayer doesn’t have to be fancy.

How many families and churches are guilty of its members actually falling asleep or getting distracted with other things while the person or clergy leads a very long prayer with hard to grasp words?  Sadly, so many.  Prayers don’t have to be complicated. You don’t need to impress God or whoever you are praying to, just so that your prayer will be effective.  A prayer said from the heart, which means, a prayer said with enough desire, no matter how simple,  is strong enough to reach the desired destiny.

  1. Prayer does not have to be said over and over.

Recited prayers in repetition, without being sincere about it, does nothing. It is just babbling none sense.  Sincerity is understanding and meaning each word you uttered.   You only repeat things to someone who has a hearing defect,  someone who has memory problems or when you don’t trust that the one you’re speaking to is really listening.
A prayer of faith is a prayer of trust.When you trust, you just surrender once and believe that it shall manifest.  Just like the analogy of the car,  you drive and unload your dirty laundry to your desired laundry station.  Repeating the same prayer  over and over is just like delivering the dirty laundry to the laundry station, and repeatedly asking the dirty laundry back and surrendering it again to the station.

Your “dirty laundry”  can’t be washed, dried and returned to you all folded and hung if you keep asking it back from the start.  Once you surrender anything in prayer, trust that it will be answered in a way that is best for you and your situation.

  1.  Prayer does not need a schedule.

You don’t have to wait until bedtime to pray.  You need not wait for certain hours of the day, days of the week, certain months of the year, or any moon phase or season to make a petition.  If you believe that there are only certain hours or schedules that your prayers will be answered by your godhead, maybe you should check if your god is really powerful enough to be called the true source of all light and love. A true all powerful God is not governed by time. He/She will feel, hear and listen to your requests anytime.  No appointments or schedules are required.  Would you think that your earthly father or mother placed a schedule on you when you were still a baby as to when you should cry or not? That cry as a babe was your prayer to your parent to rescue you from either a soaking diaper, a hunger for milk, a pain, or for just a warm embrace.  If your parents were on call anytime you needed them then, what more for the true God who loves all unconditionally?

  1. You don’t need to be in a certain place to pray:

You don’t have to be in a chapel, a church or a cathedral to find God and tell Him/Her something. You don’t have to travel to Mecca or Jerusalem to have your prayers heard. God/Source is everywhere and is in everything that’s why He/She sees, knows and feels your desires.  Your prayers could be sent from wherever you are.  You could pray even while doing something, like driving, for instance.  You can even pray while in the bathroom or any unlikely place, as long as you are undistracted. Remember that your best prayers of faith are usually made when you are determined and focused. When there is full concentration,  you gather enough emotion for the thought and it becomes an effective prayer.  It is usually achieved when one is alone.  But this doesn’t mean that your prayers won’t be answered when you pray in a crowd.  It just means that you can fully and wholly be in the moment of petitioning when you are by yourself.

  1. Prayer is not a test to know if your Godhead is powerful enough or is loving enough.

Many who pray are very happy and thankful when they get a big YES to their request/s. Many lose faith and stop praying when a certain petition is not answered the way they wanted it. All prayers, said with intensity is answered.  The answer may be yes, wait, and no.  If a prayer is answered with a no,  it does not mean that God/Source is weak and incapable of granting your request.  It also doesn’t mean that He/She does not love you.

Every person comes into the world with a certain life plan or life chart.  The true God/Source, before you were born, was with you when you created this life plan or chart.  Outlined and detailed in this plan or chart are lessons you must learn and experience in this lifetime.  If you ask God for something in prayer, no matter how much you invest emotion on it, if it is not going to be in accordance with the life plan you created, it will never manifest.  Why?  Because it will destroy what you pre-planned for you to learn and experience.  So stop getting so angry with God when you don’t get the answers you want.  Trust and understand that your prayer was answered with NO because there is a grand plan and that is for your betterment.  Someday, you will know and understand why.

  1.  Prayers don’t need classification and third party intercessors.

Prayers are not necessarily “Holy”.  Prayer is not only for thanksgiving,  for praise and adoration or for other pious stuff. They also are not for asking things, alone.  Prayers can be of any topic you want.  You can pray out all your secrets and frustrations.The way you talk to your closest friend is the best same way you should say your prayers. Express anything you feel or want or need and there are no limitations. God/Source loves you and knows the real you that is why you can be yourself when you communicate.  You can even tell God how angry you are or that you don’t understand His/Her ways.  Honesty in emotions is needed in prayer.  You can’t fool God/Source because He/She is omniscient,  always aware of everything.

Giving your power to others by asking them to pray to God for you is different from asking others to pray with you for a certain intention. You don’t have to go to a rabbi or a priest to tell your Godhead how sorry you are or for them to seek for your forgiveness. God knows what you’ve done and He/She will never judge you for it. Go tell your intentions straight. Prayer is a direct line to God/Source.  You don’t need the help of other people or energies to get your prayer heard.  Don’t give your power to others. Ask, seek and feel God/Source on your own terms.

  1.  You don’t need a title to be worthy of prayer.

No matter who you are,  you have the free gift of prayer. You need not be famous  nor be someone big in church or government to have your prayers answered. You need not be a saint.  Even the so called “sinners”  can pray. Anyone can say any kind of prayer for any kind of event.  You don’t have to be a priest to pray for the soul of a dying person in front of you.  You don’t need to be a shaman to cleanse your spirit for you. You just need to be who you are.
Ask anything with enough intensity and you might even be giving off more powerful prayers than most “holy” and famous preachers and church leaders.

We are praying almost every time we breath.  Every time we think and feel, we are already praying.  It may not be directed to a Godhead but when a thought, empowered by emotion or desire is created in our mind,  we release these as prayers to the universe and “someone”  and “something” answers.

Have you ever experienced wishing someone who wronged you to trip or fall and then minutes later, that person actually experiences it?  Or maybe think of something and after awhile, it happens?  It is because you thought of it with enough emotion that is manifested right away.  But who answers these undirected or unintended thought-forms?

The Universe is vast beyond our limited imagination.  Dwelling in it are various energies,entities, and beings who are at different levels of spiritual development.  An existence or being that has more light belongs to the higher levels and dimensions.  The brightest ones are not from the universe we dwell in but are able to enter and leave as they please. The greater the light, the more wisdom it carries and the more loving it is. The more loving it is, the less is it’s need to feed on other’s energy.  The dimmer and darker entities belong to the lower levels of the universe. They have the most fear and ignorance.  Because of their lack of love and wisdom,  they are not able to sustain themselves of enough energy. Their hunger motivates them to feed on the energy of others.

These lower energies/entities are the ones “answering” our unguarded negative thoughts and words. They feed on all negative emotions such envy, hate, jealousy, pride, and hatred.  This makes them powerful enough to make one’s dark thoughts a reality.

Unguarded thoughts of the positive kind are automatically directed to the beings of true light and the Source of all that there is.  Dark entities cannot stand in the presence of positive emotions.

Prayer, in the spirit world, when directed towards a Godhead, is seen as light. They can range from powerful beams to tiny sparks or to no light at all.  The more intent and emotion in a prayer, the brighter it shines. The brighter it shines,  the faster they are met by beings-in-charge to be answered.

It is also  important to note that the most powerful prayers are usually a mother’s prayers for her child. Because of the intense love and desire for the protection and safety of their children,  mothers send continuous solid light beams of prayers to the Universe and they are immediately taken cared of. I shall expound on this phenomenon in a later article.
You may also want to read on:

  How To Boost Your Prayer Power

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How To Stop Bad Dreams

50d8f-nightmares-linked-to-psychotic-behavior1People dream when they sleep although some won’t agree because they don’t recall any in their waking state. These dreams may be pleasant and inspiring.  But when dreams include ugly images or induce feelings of utter helplessness and fear,  they are classified as nightmares or even night terrors. Almost everyone has had a very bad dream but for the “lucky” few,  they say they  never had an unpleasant dream.   I personally have had nightmares since childhood.   They range from prophetic to utterly horrifying, unexplainable and debilitating.  

I grew up from a rigidly religious Christian family and community.   Mentioning or relating anything not found in the Holy Bible was automatically “from the devil”.  As a very young child, it was traumatic. Instead of hearing consoling words after crying out my bad dreams, I would be reprimanded about not praying enough before going to sleep or that I must have done a “sin”  that’s why the bad dreams were haunting me.  But I knew myself better.  I always slept with the Holy Book beside me and enjoyed talking to “God” and the “angels” until I fell asleep, so how could they tell me such rubbish? (The, “talking to God  the angels,” part is another story.) So from then on, the unusual and scary dreams were kept solely to myself.

 

As the years passed, together with being able to interpret my own dreams (and practiced explaining my classmates’ and friends’ dreams),  I realized that such nightmares had different purposes and causes. I somehow developed the knowing whether I should or should not be worried of a certain nightmare.

 

It was common for me to have past life, inter-dimensional, prophetic and message dreams.  They came in both pleasant and horrifying fashions but I managed to cope and deal with them, physically alone but spiritually guided. 

 

Even without saying,  praying for protection before sleeping is very important.  But through experience,  there are times when praying before you sleep is not enough.  You still experience the bad dreams. And so, here are some things I suggest you try to stop them  :

 

1. Inverting My Pillow :  Sometimes,  there are nightmares that seem to continue (even after waking up for a few minutes) as soon as you go back to sleep.  When this happens,  invert the pillow you have under your head.  When the energy causing the bad dream is not that strong,  this method helps.

Also, you may try transferring your head position to the foot part of the bed.  This method is quite stronger than the pillow-inverting method.

 

2.  Changing the Bed’s Position :  I noticed that in some houses I lived in (long before I learned Feng Shui), there were some portions in the bedroom, that when I positioned my bed there, nightmares would keep happening. At the worst, sleep paralysis occurs.  As soon as morning comes, I would immediately rearrange the room and find another spot for my bed and just like that, no more nightmares.

 

3.  Keeping Symbols of Protection :  My father’s side is extremely Catholic.  When I would sleep over at my aunts’ houses, there would always be personal altars complete with images of saints and crucifixes, bibles and lighted candles  in each bedroom. They said that those would protect the dwellers in the room.  No offense to those who have this practice, but that was not how it was for me.  Not only did I have horrible nightmares in their rooms.  I even saw non-human figures hovering around the altars, staring creepily at me.  According to my relatives,  these images were “blessed” by a priest and everything was just my overactive imagination.  I felt really bad about that.  

 

     I have nothing against images of saints, God and Jesus.  It’s just that in my experience,  such creations, including dolls and paintings can be inhabited by the dark and the malevolent if not treated properly.  I personally keep a collection of images, but I see to it that they are personally cleansed, spiritually filled with light and shielded by the Source, my higher power, and my guardians.  

 

I prefer framed symbols like OM/Aum, HUM, Tam, Antahkarana etc. because their mere presence, even without being blessed or activated,  harmonizes the energies around an area.  They automatically exude positive vibes of protection and help, healing and wellness.  

 

So if ever you wish to feel safe,  you may still keep any of your favorite image/s close by but make sure that it has been properly cleansed and blessed. Remember that blessing an object is not done by the recitation of words alone but by the power of intent, faith and love.

 

4.  Orgonites and Pyramids :   Living in haunted houses is like tea to my cup. Seeing spooky entities in my bedroom was usually the icing to my cake since childhood. As if it was not enough for them to scare me enough in my waking state,  they would even haunt my dreams.  But having pyramids and orgonites around have been very helpful in shielding my space from lower energies and EMF that disrupt sleep.  You can search the net for these devices.  They come in extremely handy in so many practical and spiritual ways.

 

5.  Smudging Your Space :  Incense has a very special ability to cleanse your environment, if done properly.  I have seen many who use incense to clear their homes but still wonder why unseen negative forces remain.  It is because mere lighting and burning is not enough.  Intent and respect play very important roles.  Once you have chosen which kind of incense you will be using,  make sure to “activate” it.  How?  First, you must believe that everything has life in it, even the seemingly inanimate incense.  In sincere prayer and respect, thank your incense and request that it be very effective for cleansing your space from the energy of fear and negativity in all forms.  Then, light your incense. Let it’s smoke and fumes reach all parts of your sleeping area, including the insides of cabinets, shelves and under the bed.  Together with the smoke, visualize cleansing white light scattering and covering your whole room. Close your session with a prayer to your higher power or Godhead.  Ask that your sleeping quarter be sealed with His/Her Divine protection and love. Then, have faith that your space is totally protected.

 

6.  Keep your Space Clean /Choose Positive Colors, Pictures and Posters :  Have you ever noticed that most dysfunctional and problematic people have very dirty and dark rooms decorated with posters depicting negative images? Clutter, dirt and darkness are the breeding grounds for negative entities.  

Make it a habit to shower your room with sunlight even just for three hours a day by opening your windows. Raising the blinds or tying your curtains to one side of the window will allow cleansing, energizing air and light to enter.  Sun rays can do miracles in ridding your home of a plethora of problems. Most rooms with very tiny windows or no windows are areas where negative energies dwell and so for the very least,  keep such areas perpetually clean and uncluttered.  I had a friend who kept asking me why he always had very bad dreams. He said that he did almost everything I advised but he still had them.  When I visited his room, I saw that he had many posters of guns, skulls and some heavy metal bands. I immediately asked him to take those down and burn them.  Lo and behold, the nightmares stopped.
 
 

7.  Keeping Sea Salt or Regular Rock Salt :  This part, which is extremely effective, comes with a special story and I shall write about it in another post.

Using salt to drive away evil spirits is very popular in Philippine folklore. It does and it helps prevent nightmares, too.  Either you use salt alone or salt with water, as long as you couple it with intent, it will work.  You may use a glass and fill it to half with salt.  Position the glass under your bed or at your side table.  Again, thank your salt and ask it to be very powerful in protecting your body, mind and spirit as you sleep.

 

8.  Shielding Yourself at Bedtime :  Asking for protection through your regular bedtime prayer routine may not be enough.  Words, when uttered in fear or doubt are not effective prayers. Protecting oneself, I believe, calls for proactive measures.  A highly effective means to guard your space and aura from nightmares and dark forces in the night is by spiritually shielding your self.  Call on your Godhead and guardians.  Then, create a shield around your whole body.  It may look like a bubble enveloping you or a bright star keeping you safe inside. However you wish your shield to look like is your choice.  Make sure it exudes an aura of strength and safety.  Make it look and feel comfortable for you. Then speak to your shield. Instruct it on what it should do.  Ask it to keep the negative from entering your aura.  Ask it to be flexible enough to allow your soul to travel when you sleep but at the same time, strong enough to keep it within allowable and safe boundaries.

The soul travels when the physical body is asleep. Sometimes, its visits to unpleasant realms or dimensions is what the human brain registers as nightmares. In extreme cases, some die in their sleep because the silver cord connecting the soul to the body is severed when the soul gets trapped somewhere. This is why you ought to program your shield in a detailed but loving way.
 
 
 

9.  Speaking To the Soul :  Sometimes, recurrent and traumatic dreams are replays your soul goes through when you are asleep. You can handle this by first, placing yourself in a cam state before you sleep. Call on your Godhead and guardians to assist you.  Then begin speaking to your soul. Tell it that if that recurrent dream is from another lifetime,  it should no longer be afraid of it.  Tell your soul to release that traumatic event to the Source of Light and Love.  Also say that you are living in a different lifetime and that event will not happen again in the present.  Send healing to that fearful or torturing event and wrap it in a bubble of love and visualize that you are personally surrendering it to your Godhead. Then expect the miracle.  

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Note: Mothers can do this for their very young children when they experience night terrors.  As soon as the child falls asleep, you, as a mother could directly call on the soul of your child.  Speak to it and explain what has been mentioned above.  

 

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